Comments on: ‘Tis the Season of Projective Identification – Fa la lah! https://icounsellor.co.uk/articles/2011/12/seasonal-projective-identification-over-christmas/ Counsellor Dean Richardson MNCPS(Accred/Reg) Sat, 29 Nov 2025 13:07:47 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.5 By: JamesP https://icounsellor.co.uk/articles/2011/12/seasonal-projective-identification-over-christmas/#comment-5191 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 11:57:03 +0000 http://www.icounsellor.co.uk/?p=4692#comment-5191 This is a very nice though. Exactly how I see the loneliness issue in the Christmas season. There are many different possibilities of course, but I guess many people feeling lonely during Christmas time are caused through the kind of artificially generated message of Christmas societies how Christmas is celebrated. Even though one might not feel especially lonely during the rest of the year the message of Christmas family togetherness, happy faces and social dinning connote a loneliness being alone during that time.

I never had a big family Christmas tradition, hence you might think I should be used to it (I don’t have the effect of a happy time in the year I don’t have anymore, what could cause loneliness as well), nevertheless I had my issues and loneliness attacks in some years. I talk to a life coach when I feel like needing some professional input (can recommend Your24hCoach) and only after a deep reflection on the Christmas implications I recognized and ‘learned’ to enjoy the time in solitude without feeling lonely. Hence, I kind of accepted the fact to not celebrate the holidays like it might be supposed to do so. I guess many other struggle with that fact just because of that exaggerated imaging of Christmas in society.

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